大学恋爱（1）

After a seemingly endless 12-year journey, students finally reach their cherished destination and settle down as freshmen. After the struggles of middle and high school, college is a haven for freshers: A warm bed, new friends and, most important of all, freedom. Only one thing is missing: A romantic partner who can bring vitality and flavor to the college experience.

But this flavor can often be soured by that well-worn poisoner of relationships everywhere: Money. And money issues can damage such a fragile butterfly as campus love.

Male students, as a result of both societal conditioning and a sense of chivalry, often take it for granted that paying the bill is symbolic of both their value in a relationship and the embodiment of politeness. “I never let a girl pay the bill, or I feel embarrassed,” said Wei Xu, an 18-year-old freshman at Sichuan Agricultural University.”

According to an online survey on Sohu.com that quizzed 6,000 students, 8.8 percent of them (mostly male) get an extra “relationship budget” from parents. Every month, Wei’s father gives him another several hundred yuan so that he can sustain the status of generous boyfriend.

Whereas, according to female students, having a boyfriend that acts like an ATM machine is not always welcome. “Spending parents’ money is not something to be proud of,” said Pan Tongtong, 18, a freshman at Beijing Normal University. “I would view such a boy as an irresponsible type. Liu Na, 18, a freshman at Shenzhen University, echoed those sentiments by saying that she prefers going Dutch as a way to show each other respect. “The nature of a relationship is sharing not taking,” said Liu. “Plus, I don’t want to feel as though I am relying on my boyfriend financially.”

However, male students find it hard to accept the dawning reality of financial co-existence. Wei Xu believes that it would hurt his pride to ask a girl to share the cost. “I just don’t know how to open my mouth to raise the subject,” Wei said. Girls, however, prefer setting ground rules regarding such matters so as to rule out any possible misunderstandings. “It’s better to get things straight before dating, so that neither part feels undue pressure on the matter of money, which could be a sensitive subject in a relationship,” said Qin Xiaolan, a 19-year-old freshman at Wuhan University. Some, however, balance things differently. Ma Shunyang, 20, a sophomore student at Guangdong Foreign Studies University, always gives some money to her boyfriend before going out for a dinner or a movie. “It is understandable for my boyfriend to be the one in charge in front of others,” said Ma. Ma also thinks that having expensive dinners or going to expensive moviesdoesn'tguarantee a happy relationship. “The key is how much thought is put into the relationship, not how much money,” said Ma.

12年的求学之途看似漫漫无期，但学生们最终到达了一直期盼的目的地，迈入了大学校门。相对于初中和高中的艰苦奋斗，大学就是避风港：温暖的床铺，新的朋友，最重要的，就是自由。而对大学生来说，唯独缺少的一样东西，就是一位能够为大学生活增添活力与回味的情感伴侣。

不过，在一个东西面前，这种味道就变质了，虽然这个东西平凡得不能再平凡，却是所有感情的毒药，那就是：钱。钱能破坏如蝴蝶般脆弱的校园爱情。

出于社会习惯以及绅士风度的考虑，男孩往往认为付账是天经地义的，因为这既是他们价值的象征，又是礼貌的体现。“我从来不让女孩买单，这会使我感到尴尬。”18岁的四川农业大学大一新生魏叙（音译）是这样认为的。

搜狐网针对6000名学生做了一项网上调查，其中有8.8%的人（大部分是男生）从父母那里获得了额外的“恋爱预算”。每月，魏叙（音译）都从父亲那额外获得几百块，维系他作为一个慷慨男友的形象。

但是，在女生看来，一个像自动取款机一样的男友并不总那么受欢迎。“花父母的钱不值得骄傲，在我看来是没有责任心的表现。”北京师范大学大一新生潘彤彤（音译）如是说。深圳大学18岁的新生刘娜（音译）也持有同样的观点，她更倾向于AA制，这样可以表示对互相的尊敬。“爱情的本质是分享不是索取，另外我不想让人觉得我是在被男朋友养着。”

然而，逐渐兴起的经济独立并不容易被男生接受。魏叙认为请求女孩分担花销是伤自尊的事。他说：“我都不知道该如何开口提出这个要求。“而女孩更喜欢先定好基本原则，以防出现可能的误解。“在约会前最好先把事说清楚，这样双方都不会在钱的问题上感到过分的压力，这在双方相处中是个敏感问题。”武汉大学19岁的新生秦小兰（音译）说。当然有些人也有不同的处理方式。广东外语外贸大学20岁的二年级生马顺阳（音译）在吃饭或者看电影前总是先给他男朋友钱。她说：“我能理解我的男朋友在其他人面前愿意表现出占主导的姿态。”她还认为吃饭看电影花大价钱并不能保证幸福的爱情。她认为：“问题的关键在于投入了多少感情，而不是多少钱。”

大学恋爱（2）

As it is known, when we are in high school, we all have a constant goal that is to get the entrance to college, and hard work is out of question for the following. So we gain the notice to college finally which we often dream of in the nights, which proves a proverb that the god doesn't live up to someone who spends time and efforts, please memorize the sentence for good.

Of course one day we went to college in August or September happily and proudly, but at the same time something happened that it made your heart pounding fiercely next, by the way, that is love for many college students. And then they miss the directions and their selves as well for their lives. Next I am to express that I am neutral for falling in love in college, however I have some ideas to illustrate of my own.

Firstly, if you are passers-by, I think we will find a lot about several couples of boyfriends and girlfriends under the dorms or dim corners or in the classes without anybody for close postures, as youngsters, it is normal without asking cause about that.

Secondly, even worth mentioning is that many young boys and girls couldn't attend classes and courses instead of traveling to some sceneries and sight places or doing other things only to turn out them loved each other temporarily.

Thirdly, especially to most of freshmen, please don't be influenced by the phenomenon that a number of students who finds anther half called by them selves proudly, because I think persons are different from each other, different characters, backgrounds and aims. But there is one point to obey if you actually want to have an attempt the feeling for love at first sight: it is , whenever you and I am, the learning and the work is the most principle rather than love is the first and work second, for we aren't children and teenagers anymore, in the future society needs a comprehensive qualifications, profound and extensive knowledge persons, meanwhile in college you are in the state of half foot to society which time is a most important process to exercise and experience before stepping to complicated and complex society, and therefore we are supposed to spend much time in learning instead.

What are mentioned above are only my opinions, believing that others have more perfect for falling in love in college.

大学恋爱（3）

As it is known, when we are in high school, we all have a constant goal that is to get the entrance to college, and hard work is out of question for the following. So we gain the notice to college finally which we often dream of in the nights, which proves a proverb that the god doesn't live up to someone who spends time and efforts, please memorize the sentence for good.

众所周知，我们在高中的时候，我们都有一个固定的目标，是要上大学，以及为了未来努力工作是毫无疑问的。所以我们最后得到了我们经常在晚上做梦都会梦到的大学录取通知书，这证明了一句谚语：皇天不负有心人，请记住，这是好句子。

Of course one day we went to college in August or September happily and proudly, but at the same time something happened that it made your heart pounding fiercely, by the way, that is love for many college students. And then they miss the directions and their selves as well for their lives. Next I am to express that I am neutral for falling in love in college, however I have some ideas to illustrate of my own.

当然有一天，我们会在八月或九月幸福、自豪的去上大学，但在同时也发生了一些事情，让你的心受到猛烈的冲击，顺便说一下，这就是很多大学生们的爱情。然后他们失去了方向，迷失了自我，迷失了生命。接下来我要表达的观点是对于在大学恋爱我是持中立的态度，但是我有一些例子来说明我自己的想法。

Firstly, if you are passers-by, I think we will find a lot about several couples of boyfriends and girlfriends under the dorms or dim corners or in the classes without anybody for close postures, as youngsters, it is normal without asking cause about that. Secondly, even worth mentioning is that many young boys and girls couldn't attend classes and courses instead of traveling to some sceneries and sight places or doing other things only to turn out them loved each other temporarily. Thirdly, especially to most of freshmen, please don't be influenced by the phenomenon that a number of students who finds anther half called by them selves proudly, because I think persons are different from each other, different characters, backgrounds and aims. But there is one point to obey if you actually want to have an attempt the feeling for love at first sight: it is , whenever you and I am, the learning and the work is the most principle rather than love is the first and work second, for we aren't children and teenagers anymore, in the future society needs a comprehensive qualifications, profound and extensive knowledge persons, meanwhile in college you are in the state of half foot to society which time is a most important process to exercise and experience before stepping to complicated and complex society, and therefore we are supposed to spend much time in learning instead.

首先，如果你是路人，我想我们会发现很多对男女朋友在班宿舍或昏暗的角落或在没有人的教室里做一些亲密的行为。对于年轻人，毫无疑问，这是正常的。其次，更值得一提的是，许多男孩和女孩不去上课，而是去一些风景名胜或做其他的事情只是为了证明他们彼此相爱。第三，特别是大部分新生，请不要被那些学生自豪地声称找到另一半的现象受影响，因为我觉得每个人都是不一样的，不同的性格，背景和目标。但有一点是被认可的，如果你真想尝试那种一见钟情的感觉：它是不管什么时候，对于你和我学习和工作是最高原则而不是爱情第一，工作第二，因为我们不再是儿童和青少年了，未来社会需要具有综合素质，深刻而广泛的知识的人，与此同时，在大学你已经是半只脚踏入社会了，在你踏入复杂的社会之前时间是锻炼和体验最重要的过程。因此我们应该花更多的时间在学习上。

What are mentioned above are only my opinions, believing that others have more perfect for falling in love in college.If you are falling love with somebody in college right now,please do yourself to be a excelent college student.

以上提到的仅是我个人的意见，相信其他人有更完美的大学恋爱想法。

大学恋爱（4）

College students have more freedom than before and they also grow more and more mature in physical and mental. So it is natural that they would like to fall in love with someone. As a result, campus love becomes popular in university. For this phenomenon, people opinions vary. In my opinion, I don’t agree with that phenomenon.

跟以前相比，大学生拥有更多的自由，而且在身心上他们也在慢慢地变得越来越成熟。所以他们想谈恋爱是很自然的。结果校园恋爱在大学中就变得很普遍。对于这一现象，人们众说纷纾在我看来，我是持反对意见的。

First of all, falling in love with others cost a lot of money. When two people have that kind of relationship, they will go out with each other often. When they are going out, they have to spend more money. During the dating, the boy may try his best to buy things to make the girl happy. While the girl may start to make up or buy more beautiful clothes to make herself look better. All these need money. However, university students are still students. They have no income. Their money is from their parents. Falling in love with someone will increase the burden of their family and themselves.

首先，恋爱需要花费很多钱。当两个人是那种关系的时候，他们就会经常一起出去。出去的时候就要花比较多的钱。约会中，男孩子会尽自己最大的努力去买东西给女孩让她开心。而女孩也会开始化妆或者买一些漂亮的衣服来让自己看起来更美丽。这些行为都是需要钱的。然而，大学生仍然还是学生。他们没有收入。他们的钱是父母给的`。恋爱会增加家庭和自己的负担。

In addition, dating will distract students’ attention from study. Although college students are growing more and more mature, they are still teenagers having little life experience. Their self- discipline always is not good. If they can’t deal with the relation between study and dating properly, their study always will be given up by themselves. Even they won’t give up their study, but it is surely influenced.

此外，约会也会分散学生在学习上的注意力。虽然大学生越来越成熟了，但是他们仍然是没有什么生活经验的青少年。他们的自我约束能力并不是那么好。如果他们不能处理好学习与恋爱之间的关系，他们终究会放弃自己的学习。就算他们不会放弃自己的学业，但肯定会受影响的。

In general, dating in campus is bad for the development of university students. For the sake of their life and study, they should not start a relation while they are still in campus.

总的来说，校园恋爱不利于大学生的发展。看在生活和学习的份上，他们不应该在学校的时候就开始谈恋爱。