生活英语听力文章：如何漂亮的接受别人的赞美

How to Accept Compliments 如何接受漂亮的赞美

如何接受漂亮的赞美

From a very young age, all of us were taught how to accept a gift: say thank you, say something nice about the gift and, above all, don’t say you don’t like it (even if you don’t) because that will hurt the feelings of the giver.

从很小的年龄开始，我们所有人就被教导如何你去接受礼物：说谢谢，说礼物很漂亮，最重要的是，不要说你不喜欢它(即使你真的不喜欢)因为那样会伤害送给你礼物人的心。

This advice is as good today as it was when you were five years old. It still applies whenever you receive a gift—and that includes the gift of a compliment.

这个建议像你五岁时那样好一样。无论你收到一个什么样的礼物，你都一直可以去赞美。

Graciously accepting a compliment in any setting is not only good manners, it’s a sign of someone who is confident and self-assured. It’s also a way to build rapport by acknowledging the compliment paid.

欣然的去接受任何一个礼物，这不仅仅是礼貌的，这是一种自信，是自信的人的表现。这也是一种承认建立融洽的一种方式。

Today’s lesson on accepting compliments will help you see that this little thing can be a huge boost to your reputation.

今天接受赞美的课程会帮助你认识到一点小的事情对于提升你的荣誉有很大的作用。

A Social Skill Worth Doing Well

There are a number of theories as to why people have a hard time accepting compliments. Reasons range from wanting to appear modest or not feeling as if the compliment is deserved to doubting the sincerity of the person giving the compliment.

社交技巧值得做的更好有一些理论是关于为什么人们很难接受赞美。原因包括出现的一些不确定的感觉就像那些给你赞美的人是值得怀疑的。

What you may not realize, however, is that rejecting, deflecting, or not properly acknowledging a compliment creates a negative impression for three specific reasons.

你可能没有意识到，然而，承认负面影响的三个原因是拒绝，婉转或者不正确的接受的赞美。

1. Discounts the intentions of the person giving the compliment

2. Sends the message that you think the giver’s opinion is flawed

3. Suggests that you don’t value your own abilities or talents

1.给向你赠送的礼物打折扣。2.发消息说你认为赠送礼物的人的观点是有缺陷的。3.表明你不重视自己的能力或才能。

Remember that everybody is busy. We all have our own concerns to look after, so when someone takes notice of something we’ve done well and makes an effort to tell us, we owe it to them to acknowledge their thoughtfulness.

记住每个人都很忙。我们每个人都有问题，因此当某人发现我们做的很好的一些事情时会努力的告诉我们，我们感谢他们的体贴。

Do You Recognize a Compliment When You Hear One?

当你听到一个赞美，你是否真正认出那是一个赞美?

Defined as an expression of praise, commendation, or admiration, compliments should be pretty easy to recognize, but can be tough to spot when we’re focused on ourselves. Here are two examples:

为表扬、赞美、羡慕和恭维下一个定义，恭维是最容易被认出的，但是当我们专注于自己时很难发现这些，这里有两个例子：

“Have you lost weight, Mary? You look terrific!”

“你在减肥吗?迈瑞，你看起来很好!”

“It must be the outfit.”

Mary is sending a message that she’s self conscious about her weight and/or she doesn’t deserve credit for her efforts.

“这是必须的。”迈瑞发了一条信息说她对自己体重的认识使她不值得被表扬她所付出的努力。

“I’m really happy with the way you handled yourself on that call, Bill.”

“比尔，我真的很高兴你通过电话这么好的方法表达。”

“Yea, but I wish I would have remembered to tell them about the discount.

Bill is sending a message that he doesn’t think he’s good enough and that he is not able to see the potential benefit that may come from his contribution.

“是的，但是我希望我会记得告诉他们，他们所忽视的。”比尔发了一条信息说，他不认为他足够好，因为他不能看的他做出的贡献的潜在的价值。

Responding to a Compliment

反应出一种恭维

These two examples may seem obvious, but remember that compliments come in many forms. Whatever the situation, there is a proper way to acknowledge praise, commendation, or admiration.

这两个例子似乎是显而易见的，但是你要知道恭维可以是很多方式。无论是什么状况，有一种合适的方式来承认表扬、赞美和羡慕。

Make eye contact. Acknowledging a compliment is a perfect time to connect with someone. Look the person in the eye when you respond. Doing so communicates sincerity and self-confidence.

眼神交流。承认是恭维时，这是最好的时机和别人交流。当他做出反应时，看着他的眼睛。真诚和自信的沟通。

Say, “Thank you.” A sincere, unhurried ‘thank you’ along with a smile and eye contact is more often than not all that is necessary.

说,"谢谢你。"时，不仅是一个真诚的从容不迫的"谢谢你"，面带微笑和眼神交流都是必要的。

Don’t explain anything. If you feel moved, you can follow your ‘thank you’ with something positive. Doing so communicates desirable character traits such as friendliness and positivity. Caution: If you can’t keep it brief and will be tempted to explain or rationalize your action or accomplishment, leave it at a simple ‘thank you.’

Here’s how it might sound if Mary and Bill put this advice into practice:

不要做任何解释。如果你被感动到了，你要跟随着你的内心去做一些积极向上的事。这样的交流有友善和积极的特征。警告：如果你不能保持简单的解释或理顺你的行动和成就,就留下简单的一句话“谢谢你。”如果迈瑞和比尔把建议付诸行动，听起来会是这样的：

“Have you lost weight, Mary? You look terrific!”

“你在减肥吗?迈瑞，你看起来很好!”

Thanks, Barb. I feel great, too.

“I’m really happy with the way you handled yourself on that call, Bill.”

谢谢，巴布，我也感觉很好。“比尔，我对你这样的做法很满意。”

Thank you, Jim. I appreciate the feedback.

谢谢你，吉姆。我对你的回答表示赞美。

Quite a difference, wouldn’t you say? My challenge for you today is three-fold:

完全不同的效果，你会说吗?我对你的挑战是这三个：

1. Listen for compliments given to others as you go about your business over the next week. How many times do you hear people rejecting or ignoring a compliment they receive?

2. Give more compliments than you normally would. Notice the responses people give.

3. Finally, put today’s advice into practice the very next time you receive a compliment.

1。你下周做你自己的事时，去听别人的赞美。你听到多少次人们的对赞美的拒绝或者是当收到赞美时不去理会? 2.给别人的赞美远远超过自己，注意一下别人会给你怎样的回复。 3.最后，把今天的建议付诸到适当的时间，你会收到赞美的。

Acknowledging a compliment paid is a simple, yet very effective way to make a positive impression and build a favorable reputation.

承认赞美是一种简单的支付，这是一种有效的途径给人留下美好的印象并建立一个好的声望。